How to Identify Patterns You Should Leave in the Past

Oftentimes, we find ourselves repeating situations, choices, and relationships that no longer serve us and that hold back our progress. These repetitive patterns can be so deeply ingrained that we don’t even notice how much they influence our decisions, limit our growth, and keep us stuck in the past. So, if you feel like you’re always “living on repeat,” it’s time to take a closer look at your story and identify the patterns you should leave behind.

Notice What Repeats

Start by evaluating the situations that have significantly marked your journey. One of the clearest signs of a recurring pattern is repetition: relationships that always end the same way, constant workplace conflicts, self-sabotage, or even persistent negative thoughts. Pause to reflect and identify these cycles.

Use Your Birth Chart as a Tool for Self-Discovery

Astrology can provide valuable insights into where these repeating cycles are happening. Aspects of your chart—such as Saturn’s placement, the 12th House, and retrograde planets—can indicate karmic lessons, unconscious memories, and areas where breaking patterns is essential. This astrological perspective can reveal what you’re still carrying from the past and how to transform it.

Perform Closing Rituals

Letting go of patterns isn’t only a rational process—it’s also an energetic one. Perform a symbolic ritual of closure, such as writing down everything you wish to release and safely burning the paper. You can also use crystals like obsidian or amethyst, take a cleansing herbal bath, and declare aloud:

“I close this cycle with gratitude. I am ready for the new.”

A Brave Step Forward

Identifying patterns is an act of courage. It’s about looking inward, embracing your story, and with love, deciding that you deserve more. By acknowledging what needs to be left in the past, you open space for the universe to bring you what’s truly meant for you.